"Healthy marriages are comprised of individuals who find their security and significance in Christ."
Last Tuesday, during our Leadership 113 class, we learned about the course "Marriage and Family". The objectives of the course was for us to grasp the purpose of marriage, family and parenting, to be encouraged to value and guard marriage and family and to be inspired to have a Christ-centered life, marriage and family.
I know some of my classmates who were so excited for this and I wouldn't exempt myself. You ought to know that I'm so futuristic and I love things that would just prepare me for the future. Ever since I got the vision of having a Christ-centered marriage and family, I just can't help but be excited.
I learned A LOT. But what struck me the most is the great difference of having Christ in a relationship. It'll be really awesome if all couples would realize this. Allow me to share this to you, my single or married friend. I hope I could explain it well. :)
"Healthy marriages are comprised of individuals who find their security and significance in Christ."
Most, if not all, man is always after having that sense significance. They want to be valued and respected. While for a woman, she is always after having the sense of security. She needs to be secured that she is loved and accepted. If Jesus is not in the picture, they will find their significance and security in other places. For single people, it could be from their crush, career, savings, family etc. but for those who are in a relationship, most probably from their
boyfriend/girlfriend,husband/wife.
During my B. C. (Before Christ) times, I was the expert in being insecure. I think I was the most insecure girl that you would know. I based my significance and security in my relatives, teachers, classmates and yes, even crushes. No wonder I felt so unloved, ugly, not good enough, insignificant, nothing (Bakit kasi hindi ka crush ng crush mo di ba? hahaha). Indeed, insecurity could be so dangerous and it really distorted the identity that God has given me.
According to our teacher, this is how it would look like when a woman start to feel insecure:
She will fail to appreciate her husband. She will start magnifying the things that she sees is wrong more than his effort. When that happens, the husband will start to feel insignificant. He will start communicating less to a nagging wife. He will choose to watch NBA all day or go out with friends more that facing her. Then the wife's insecurity will just grow and grow, she will nag and nag, and the husband will continue to feel more insignificant until they just grow apart.
Here' s the beautiful thing though when you have Christ as the center of your marriage: As a woman, when you find your security in Christ alone, no matter how your husband fail or fall short in making you feel loved and accepted, you will always have that source of love, source of acceptance and source of security. It'll just overflow and you will just appreciate your husband's effort and choose to respect and talk to him in a good way. In the same way with man, when you find your significance in Christ alone, no matter how your wife or your job fail or fall short in making your feel significant, you will always have the source.
After learning that, I realized the importance of being secured in every season. If ngayong season palang insecure na ako at hindi na si Jesus ang source ng security ko, paano na lang in the next season di ba? Pero more than as a preparation for the next season, this is in the first place what we're called to be in Christ. If you truly understood His unconditional, eternal love, you'll be SECURED in every season.
So woman, what do you need to be in every season? Be SECURED.
So man, what do you need to know in every season? You are SIGNIFICANT.
Praying for your Christ- centered and healthy marriage! :)
PS. MOG, you are significant and by His grace, I'll always choose to be secured in every moment. ;")
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