Dear God's princess,
February is just around the corner and you know very well what it means. SAD or Single Awareness Day is coming. It's more popularly known as Valentine's day. Can you imagine? There will be chocolates, teddy bears, roses and couples everywhere again.
As a single woman, I remember one particular Valentine's day. It was really such a dreadful day. I was just sad the whole day and I felt like crying (I think I really cried)! Ako lang ba 'to? Minsan kahit hindi din Feb. 14, it happens, right?
But then as I learn more/ relearn more from the Author of romance Himself, as I spend time with Him, really listening to Him... I slowly learned a lot through this season (or should I say "subject" ? haha) called "Singleness". I didn't actually know na enrolled pala ako sa subject na magtuturo sa akin ng maraming bagay. Haha!
My major learning is that this season is actually a gift from Him. It's not a problem to be solved, a basis of my security or beauty or a season of punishment that I should hate. It's a season of an undivided devotion to Him actually.
It says in 1 Corinthians 7:34, “The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy in both body and spirit…”
It sounded too impossible for me at first. Too impossible! How can singleness be a beautiful thing? But He continued to patiently reveal that indeed, it's a beautiful season of Him and me (insert You and me by Lifehouse :D).
I kept on learning and relearning to surrender the longings of my heart before Him and rest in the fact that if He wants me to be married, He will make a way. He's powerful. He wouldn't even need my help!
So now, as we desire to honor God more in this season, how are we to spend this beautiful season if it's not for Pursuing marriage (Surprise!Surprise!) nor Searching for future husband ('cause he's the one who will search and fight for you)?
Two letters we (yes, me too) need to remember: P.S.
Pursue Jesus Christ
Pagod ka na ba mag assume? In Christ, you can take a rest. Yung love ni Jesus for you, you don't need to assume it. It's sure, clear, real and proven.
He proved it by giving His life, His blood for YOU and me on the cross.
With that, I'm convinced that He's worthy of our love, of our devotion, of our emotions.
With that, we can now pursue this Jesus who loves so much above all else! Yes, even more than marriage!
It doesn't mean that you'll hate marriage or you'll be "boy-hater" though or you will not be friends with your brothers in Christ. It simply means that you will start making Jesus your all-in-all.
As in legit. Not just a cliche'.
How will you know that you're pursuing Jesus or other things?
Isa sa mga natutunan ko is to ... Check your thought life! Sino at ano ba ang lagi mong iniisip? Yung sinabi ba ni Jesus or yung chat ni crush na binigyan mo ng napakaraming meaning?
Practical way to fight that is once you notice you're thinking of things you shouldn't, start reminding yourself of a scripture or pray for someone to know Jesus or an open door for the nations etc. ;) It's not an automatic thing though, you need to be intentional. ;)
Now ask yourself, where is your fulfillment? Is it in the hope of marriage or in Jesus Christ?
Let me share this verse that I really appreciate these days:
Proverbs 27:7 New Living Translation (NLT)
7 A person who is full refuses honey,
but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry.
If you're so hungry, kahit ano lang basta ma fill ka. You really have the tendency to compromise. "even bitter food tastes sweet" sabi nga. But, if you're full, you can even refuse the things that would seemingly satisfy you. Full ka na eh. You can choose better what to add in your life. Hindi nalang basta-basta ang pagpili mo. HAHAHA. Am I making sense? Sana na-gets mo. I pray you'll be so full in Jesus, so in love that He alone is more than enough to fill that void in your heart. Mapa February man or December. :)
In every season, you're okay, you're full of joy because YOU have HIM! Seek to honor Him even with your emotions. Guard your heart, guard your emotions (cliche' but we obey) and ask Him to protect it. It's going to be a daily journey of surrender and passionate love for your Heavenly Bridegroom.
Basically, it's going to be: Jesus Christ > marriage hopes and dreams
Impossible? Nothing is impossible with Him! Let's ask for His enabling power.
Serve
Instead of searching and searching and searching for your future husband, start serving and serving and serving. Look beyond yourself and start looking around. There's a dying world. A lot of people are dying without even hearing what Jesus did for them, without someone who will encourage them. Your purpose to share Him to the world is not on hold. You are called to make a difference in the life of the people around you... NOW!
Go pour out yourself for the sake of Gospel, go disciple, go serve God in the ministry that He's given you, go serve your family, go do your best in your studies or at work for His glory, go pray, go give, go encourage someone, go and be used by Him mightily in this season. By His grace, we can be the woman for others that He wants us to be.
Kaya ba 'to? Kaya! :)
P.S.
I hope you know He loves you. You're precious. You're beautiful. He got you. Smile, princess. Keep running to Him. Let Him have the pen of your story. He's trustworthy and He's worthy of our all-in-all.
Love,
princessinawe
For more, please listen to this Podcast: http://setapartgirl.com/podcasts/how-to-spend-your-single-years
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